Life Transitions

What is a transition? Most people think it means change. It does, but it applies to how you pereive your change. Change is the actual event, trama, thing etc. that is happening to you. It is usually something you can’t change, and often it is a choice that was made for you not by you.
The transiton piece applies to how you see the event in your life. You have two choices, you can look at it as an adversity, (negative) or you can look at it as an opportunity (positive). To move forward in your life, to get past the “event” you have to look at the opportunity it presents. Sometimes changes are “boots in our but” to change something that we need to change, but either don’t want to or don’t know how. Yes, we need to grieve the loss that the event presents, and take the time to do that, but you can’t take to long. The key is to find the balance between grief and moving forward. You have to grieve so you can come to acceptance (the last step in the grief process) because until you do, you can’t move past it. The trick is to find a balance. I tell people take 1 day, 1 week, 1 month etc. (depending on the event) and then stop. You then need to take back your life, DON’T LET THE EVENT DEFINE YOU, and begin the process of change. Change can be a good thing, sometimes it means a new beginning, an adventure, a new opportunity and it can be exciting if you pereive it that way.
So the next time you face a life challenge, don’t let it defeat you. You are stonger than that.